Ladder Disparity : of beautiful men and ugly women
The ladder is obviously a two-way process.
When Bob meets Christina he puts her on
his ladder and she puts him on her ladder.
It often happens that one person is a
lot higher on your ladder than you are
on theirs, or vice versa. The leads to
a situation that looks like this:
Disparity Diagram
Notice that Bob has Christina very low
while Bob is very high on Christina's
ladder. He is most likely rich and she
is most likely ugly. Anyhow this is a
classic case of disparity. If we connect
the two points we can make a right triangle.
The resulting hypotenuse "c"
is the magnitude of the disparity.
Common shorthand among ladder thoerists
is "Well, she caught him doing
a stewardess and didn't leave him but
what do you expect for a level 5 disparity."
The position of being high on someone
else's ladder while having them low on
yours is referred to as being in the "upper"
or "power" position. This is
good and leads to different things depending
on who is in the power position.
If the man is in the upper position
, the disparity is a measure of how long
the woman will put up with him cheating,
using her physically without committing,
or paying his rent and all his bills.
If the woman is in the power position,
then it is a measure of how much the man
will spend money on her, fetch her things
at midnight, and listen to stories about
other guys she is sleeping with.
This is why sometimes ugly men still can do beautiful women.